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In many circles,  Massage is viewed as a luxury. Being touched feels good, for most of us, but we could live without it, right? Well, as it turns out, no.

Even as late as 1915, in hospitals and orphanages, a mysterious illness was running rampant. Infants were dying at rates between 90%-99% within the first year of  being admitted. Those who managed to survive were left permanently damaged.  Their bones did not grow properly, they were underweight, uncoordinated, and had compromised immune systems.. All these symptoms, and more, were associated with physical starvation.  Oddly, these infants were not starved at all, At least, not for food.

As it turned out, the Hospitals, in their ultimate wisdom,  reflecting on the best science of the time, decided that, because of the importance of  maintaining a germ- free environment, the babies would be handled only as much as necessary. As a consequence of this forward thinking, babies  died, with great frequency.  The disease was properly named “Merasmus” which meant a “wasting away”.  This touch deprivation looked exactly like physical starvation. There was an immediate, drastic improvement, once nurses and other caregivers handled and played with the infants.

So, maybe you believe we have advanced past that primitive stage of understanding the importance of touch. I have my doubts. Take, for example, our children. Teachers are no longer allowed to hug the children in some schools. So, do you think this practice “protects” our children? Read what Lenore Iskenazy has to say on Free-Range-Kids in an article entitled “school devises drastic solution”.

The need for touch does not just disappear as we age.There exists another hidden killer………..Stress, literally, will shorten your life.  Unlike animals who can experience stress and move on, humans have trouble turning the stress switch off. The longer the stress button remains on, the shorter your life.  Massage can turn that switch off. More on stress later. Touch a luxury? You bet your life! Here is some independent research.

Here in Rancho Cucamonga, when I am not providing massages for clients, you might find me at one of those local Starbucks,  reading a book and sipping on some green tea.  In the process,  we get to striking up a conversation and end up  exchanging  cards. Twin Sparks? What’s that about? It’s about relationship.

My response, some mystics believed  God created each soul as a “holy spark”, and as each soul descended from  heaven, the spark split into two halves, one becoming male and the other  female. You have no doubt heard the expression “soul- mate”; that is where the notion came from. We spend our lives looking for that other lost half of  oneself, your twin spark. Accordingly, to find your soul- mate,  you must perfect yourself, mostly by performing” tikkun”, Hebrew word,  meaning to make corrections. This would often take the form of good deeds, charity, thinking of others. By purifying yourself  in this way, you would naturally become a magnet for your other half. Once united with your twin spark,  you can then ascend back to heaven. Doing good deeds is the process of raising holy sparks.

Have you raised any Holy Sparks today?

Is the art of touch something that should be shared exclusively in the context of a loving relationship?

Many women have expressed concern about their husbands or boyfriends going outside the relationship to get a “Massage”. They don’t feel all that comfortable with some other woman touching their man. I”m pretty sure a good number of men in relationships feel similarly, especially if the Masseuse is a Masseur (Male Massage provider).

Additionally, a good number of potential Massage recipients are extremely nervous about exposing their bodies to a” stranger”. Even with constant recommendations from friends and family to a legitimate Therapist”, yet folks are still to uncomfortable with the prospect of getting a Massage.  Only when a forward thinking doctor combined with unbearable pain and stress, will they give it a try. It really to bad.  Given such resistance, maybe doing Massage at home  is an alternative that ought to be explored.

What’s wrong with learning Massage from a book or video?  Not a thing, yet  there are advantages to getting home mentoring in the art of Massage. After all, Massage is a “hands on ” profession. You will learn faster and get better results. Why? Feedback!  A teacher can immediately identify a technique executed correctly right from the start. This is important because you develop  good massage work habits, bad habits are hard to correct, don’t get the job done, and you may end up physically  hurting  yourself, or your loved one. How good then is your Massage really? The techniques you learn from the “book” may not be appropriate  for the person receiving the Massage or the person giving. For example,  your  wanting to use  a technique involving direct finger tip pressure to your partners back.  Perhaps you are a smaller petite woman with small hands  and not a lot of hand strength. Your partner, on the other hand weighs in at 250 with muscles tight as a drum. Try as you may, pressing as hard as you can, he can barely feel you, and your wrist and fingers are beginning to throb. You barely have enough strength to throw that massage book away. Being out the $20 and whatever you spent on that wonderful table pales to the feeling of not being able to share this wonderful experience that Massage can add to your relationship.

With Massage, it is about the quality of the interaction. While all touch is good and nurturing, focused, educated touch yields even better experiences.

Announcing, a new in home service! Personalized Home Massage Instruction for Couples. Massage mentoring provided by a trained experienced Massage Therapist

Have a custom designed Massage Plan, or learn by the part. Maybe your partner loves to have his shoulders worked on, or his feet in other words you might want to learn how to massage your partners feet, or shoulders. Maybe giving the Massage is difficult for you to do, you could use some different techniques or improve your current Massage. We can always do better. Perhaps you give your best effort and your partner never seems to improve. Maybe option 2 is what you need. I like to call it Massage first aid…………….

The Custom Designed Massage Plan involves the Therapist providing a pain, stress, and postural  assessment based on your partner’s  observable needs. With a marker,  I’ll  map out all the problem points directly onto a T- shirt that is provided to your partner. Then I show you what to do about those identified problem knotted muscles and other sources of pain and dysfunction . You’ll keep the shirt for future reference  Selecting this approach allows you, and your partner, to benefit from the Therapist’s extensive experience, saving you time and money, by teaching  you the techniques best suited  to you(the giver) and your loved one(the receiver). By focusing on the areas that most need attention, (Not always where you feel or experience the discomfort, although that get addressed as well), you both end up feeling good. Taking care of each other is what it is all about.  I can help.