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Wow, whats a knight to do….? I had just completed  a massage and was getting ready to post another article on my web site when I received an e-mail from my editor, Miriam, who, in her own, as always, polite way, expressed her concern over  my Twin Sparks web page.  Damsels in distress . (I really do not understand what all the fuss is about.)

As it turns out, my editor’s bone of contention was my implying that women could not take care of themselves; that they were not independent. She also shared the page with her friend, who agreed with Miriam’s view.

Actually, I meant to say outright, women are not independent and cannot take care of themselves. While trying to disprove me, my editor’s friend actually proved my point. Her friend said “I can take care of myself…..”I get regular massages….And If Miriam’s friend were truly independent, she would not need anyone to provide any service, much less massage. I know, a number of readers of this post probably think I’m playing some sort of semantics game. But I’m not.  In a subtle way, Miriam’s friend is not  acknowledging the help she is receiving from her massage therapist and others who make her life bearable, even possible. Like the rest of us, men included, we are dependent on each other in every meaningful way, from cradle to coffin.

The failure to recognize this truth,  that we need each other, is the cause of much suffering and the reason why many fail to ask for needed help. When we act in truly inter-dependent ways, we advance everyone. When we act the illusion of complete independence, we tear the fabric of our society apart.

I thank my editor for bringing the matter to my attention.” No man is an island”

Ladies, the debate rages on. I know the decision is a difficult one…….but maybe I can help resolve the potentially stressful internal conflict that just won’t go away. Chocolate or Massage?

Lets look at some of the pros and cons:

1. Massage  makes for more” Me” time. Chocolate pleasures are more ephemeral.
2. Massage is healthy for you. Chocolate  anti-oxidants taste the best.
3. The effects of the Massage can last up to a week. Me and my chocolate are as one; who cares about next week.
4. Massage is an expensive treat. Chocolates can be an expansive treat depending on how many you have.
5. Massage can leave you sore. Chocolates can make you bigger.
6. There are good Massages and bad . Most Chocolates are pretty good.

Ladies, don’t fret. We are not going to resolve this today. In the meantime, why not get both.  Start with a Massage followed by a Chocolate.